Hey there… 

Have you found yourself questioning your role in the world lately?

Have you been feeling a little disconnected from your community?

At the end of the day, when it’s all said and done – do you sometimes feel lonely and exhausted?

These are completely normal reactions to living in an insane world!

You might feel like your spiritual strength is being tested right now.

When you feel swept up in the opinions of others, or bombarded by information from the media, it’s easy to doubt yourself.

You might feel more alone than usual or want to hide away just to get some peace from the chaos.

Maybe you’ve noticed yourself feeling less open to other people…

feeling bored of social media streams…

and tired of any form of hate or division.

And maybe you feel like it’s turned you into someone else.

Maybe someone quieter than you used to be.

Amongst all of this change, especially over the last year, it’s easy to question your sanity and reach for quick fixes when you’re feeling unsteady.

Maybe you had that extra glass of wine…

Maybe you binged your favourite Netflix show because working felt like too much effort…

Maybe you’ve been skipping exercise or have stopped doing the things that make you feel better.

However… that will only last for so long before it does more harm than good. 

But if you can learn to find the ground beneath your feet… 

if you can center yourself even when your environment feels chaotic… 

you become stronger for yourself and others.

In 2021, staying centered may be the most important skill you learn.  

It will keep you sane, no matter what life throws at you. 

So let’s explore some simple ways you can center yourself every day, and stay calm amidst the chaos of life.

# 1 Connect with nature

As simple as it sounds, spending time outside in nature is one of the most nourishing things you can do for yourself.

If you make regular time to connect to the natural world, you’ll be amazed at how much calmer you feel.

I know it can feel like sometimes there simply isn’t time in your week, but see if you can find ways to make it work for you.

Schedule a walk in the woods at lunchtime.

See if you can get to the ocean in the evening.

Find little excuses to get outside, like walking a neighbor’s dog if you have to!

Or simply go out to your garden or park, take off your shoes, and feel the grass under your feet.

Even just 5 minutes can make a difference.

Whatever way you can find to surround yourself with trees and green spaces – do it.

Even if you live in a city, there’s always somewhere you can go.

Just remember to breathe deeply and settle your mind. Meditate if you can while you’re there too.

You’d be surprised by how much better you feel after a walk in the sunshine before you go on with your day.

# 2 Allow yourself to have a good cry

When was the last time you let yourself cry? Did you feel better afterwards? 

Most people try not to cry and hold it all in. 

Sometimes, they’re afraid to be judged.

Other times, they’re afraid they’ll cry so much that they’ll never stop.

But there’s nothing to be scared about when it comes to your tears, and they are perfectly acceptable under the current circumstances.

It’s safe to let yourself feel a little sadness, even if it’s just for a moment.

Your body has this beautiful way of releasing your stress for you, so why not use it.

Sometimes a little cry is all you need to feel less overwhelmed.

# 3 Know Your Triggers Before They Happen

Everyone gets emotionally triggered for different reasons.

It could be something that was said, a situation that was unfair, or even just a simple conflict in beliefs. 

When you’re triggered by someone else’s words or actions, you might be left feeling hurt, disappointed, or on-edge.

Do you feel like you know what makes you feel triggered?

Or are you sometimes unaware until it’s too late?

Don’t worry if you have been feeling affected by other people or the media lately.

The good news is that you can do something about it.

You might like to spend some time thinking about or writing down what you find difficult to deal with at the moment.

It could be loud or ignorant people.

Maybe you’re finding busy cities or large crowds just too much right now.

Or perhaps you’re feeling a little isolated and you feel hurt when other people don’t have enough time for you.

If you know what tends to upset you, you can be ready with a self-soothing practice (helping you avoid the quick fixes mentioned earlier).

For example, if you have to deal with a difficult person, remember to have boundaries with them and build some time into your day to decompress.

Or if you need to spend time in a busy place, make sure you schedule time in nature later so you can clear your head.

Knowing what you find hard can actually help you become more resilient.

You can start to develop strategies to help yourself stay centered.

# 4 Take good care of your body

Are you feeling tired right now?

Maybe a little low on self confidence?

Perhaps you don’t feel like you’re taking great care of yourself?

Your busiest times are actually the best times to show yourself some loving care.

When things are chaotic around you, it can make you feel disconnected from yourself.

When you’re not feeling that comfy in your own skin, you’re less inclined to want to take care of yourself.

Maybe you’ve been spending more time online…

or over-eating…

drinking alcohol…

or burying yourself in work.

All of these can be ways to escape the craziness.

But if you’re kinder to your body, you’ll be less likely to want to do those things in the first place.

So how about making a different choice and showing your body you care?

When was the last time you gave yourself a foot rub?

Or took a salt bath?

Or went to a relaxing yoga class with a friend?

Think of your body as a barometer.

When you’re feeling good within it, you’ll naturally feel stronger and more centered…

in tune with your intuition…

and able to deal with whatever life throws at you.

# 5 Write down how you are feeling

If you’ve never tried journaling, it can be a great way to process your feelings.

Kind of like a free form of therapy 😉

It’s also a useful alternative to meditation if you’re feeling too restless to sit still.

If it’s all getting too much, how about sitting down with a cup of tea and letting your thoughts pour out onto the page?

Even if you end up ranting, it’s much better that it comes out in your journal than onto the people closest to you 🙂

Some people can find journaling a little intimidating if they are not sure what to write.

But the idea here is to just let your pen do the writing.

Just breathe and allow whatever needs to surface to come through.

Maybe you’re feeling angry about something.

It’s also a great way to start noticing your triggers as mentioned above.

However you decide to use a journal, make sure it works for you and don’t feel any pressure to write in a certain way.

If journaling is something you connect with, it won’t be long before you notice how much headspace it has created for you.

Slowing Down Is The Secret Sauce

The key to staying sane is learning how to do things really slowly.

If you’re taking things at a more relaxed pace, you’re naturally more mindful.

Take one breath at a time.

Deal with one feeling at a time.

Face one problem at a time.

If you try to match the pace of the world right now you’re less likely to find the solutions you need.

But if you move slowly whilst the rest of the world is spinning out of control, you will be able to stay balanced and keep course-correcting.

So, use this time to think about what slowing down and feeling more sane might look like for you.

I hope you find a practice that allows you to stay sane and helps you choose a path of healthy self-soothing.

Learning how to gently work with your energy and emotions will allow you to feel steady during these turbulent times. 

With love & courage,

Natalie Catherine

P.S. Have you found yourself affected by unrest and anxiety lately? How have you been dealing with those feelings? I’d love to hear from you in the comments below.

P.P.S. If you’d like to learn more about managing your energy, you can schedule a private energy reading with me here.

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    Posted at 00:15h, 07 June Reply

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    Robin Childs
    Posted at 11:42h, 05 June Reply

    My fiance broke up with me 5 days ago and it came as a huge shock. He has cut off all forms of communication and I feel very confused, hurt, and somewhat angry.

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      Natalie Catherine
      Posted at 12:25h, 05 June Reply

      Dear Robin, I’m really sorry for your pain. I’m not surprised you feel those things.
      I hope some of the self-soothing suggestions here come in handy at this time, and that you have a loving support system to get you through this.

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    Lanie Cubay
    Posted at 10:19h, 04 June Reply

    Yes lately I question myself what is my role in this world. Yes feeling disconnected from my community for 4 years, thiers a time I want to cry… Thank you for sharing… Keep safe 😘

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      Natalie Catherine
      Posted at 12:28h, 05 June Reply

      Thank you for taking the time to comment and share Lanie. As tough as it can be at times, sometimes we find ourselves on our own because we’re being given an opportunity to do some healing and resource ourselves. Mother Nature is the most powerful healer – I hope you can connect with her soon! Sending you love. x

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    Alina Navrea
    Posted at 02:37h, 04 June Reply

    Superb sincrhonicity, indeed I hâd a rough Time lately, I did all your advices, took a long cry on Sunday, now I rebuilt myself. Thank you, we live interesting Times,

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      Natalie Catherine
      Posted at 12:30h, 05 June Reply

      I’m so happy to hear this was timely for you Alina. Keep choosing whatever feels good for your Soul right now. x

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    Posted at 00:33h, 04 June Reply

    PS: all of this and it’s my solar return this Saturday… I felt terrible when one of my young son’s eyes sparkled in delight and in my heart, I don’t feel the same. My b’day was always hard, not due to aging, but a lot of traumatic things used to happen around my birthday. I know it’s not my reality now, but I always have mixed feelings…as you say Old Habit….but one thing I’ve always tried to do was to be out and about. So, I’ll see what I can do with my babies as hey are at least happy for me. It’s so special when you see a baby’s eyes sparkle in delight. But, later he wasn’t behaving and wanted to show me something and I practically growled at him bc it’s starting to get to be too much…I’m going to have a behaviorist come in to help me strategize because one thing the quarantine has done is make my home over the top crazy and my Ex is always around talking nasty to the kids and I tell him to watch his tone… there’s a lot of unrest here and each time I try to start something new, it just doesn’t take off…oh boy I need help…. can’t even figure what to take care of first, my weight which has always been an issue…my kids, which I’m contacting someone ASAP, and my love life…ending one thing before starting another, which leave me alone and vulnerable as I barely drive…I’m also isolated…but at least I have picked myself up by my bootstraps and not only started a new career, but got promoted at the one year mark and several opportunities have been presenting themselves…as you said, it’s coming at me from all directions…It’s the lack of having a strong man by my side that bothers me the most and not being able to get a house, but if I get a nice rental that feels like home, that’ll be good for now…my main goal is love, security, happiness & a great quality of life for my babies and me. Is that too much to ask?

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      Natalie Catherine
      Posted at 12:35h, 05 June Reply

      Hi Lola, thanks for sharing some of your story. I’m so glad to hear that despite the challenges you’re focusing on the positives and walking away from anyone who doesn’t respect you. Remember that you’re stronger than you think you are. I hope you and your children are able to get out into nature this week – it really is the most nourishing and calming thing you can do for your mind. x

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    Mary Cathrine Messano
    Posted at 00:27h, 04 June Reply

    Feeling a lot of unrest and anxiety lately. Yes, because my husband has an habitual problem with retreating and abandoning me. To the point where I feel like we are in this vicious cycle. Where the more I pursue in the relationship. The more he withdraws. And the cycle just continues to go on. We are married but we are separated. What do I do? How do you break this vicious cycle? Don’t want to end the married. But at the same time. Don’t feel I have the tools to make the wrong right. Sincerely Mary

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      Natalie Catherine
      Posted at 12:39h, 05 June Reply

      Hi Mary – I’m sorry to hear you’ve been experiencing anxiety recently. You’re not alone in these feelings. The practices shared here will help bring your focus back to yourself so you can begin to trust yourself again – only you can know what’s best for you and your relationship right now. If you can get out into nature this week do so – you’ll be able to hear your inner voice a lot more clearly there. x

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    Posted at 00:21h, 04 June Reply

    Things are definitely chaotic here. My young sons are out of control and I work with other’s children, so I find this quite embarrassing. I’m trying to divorce someone who shouldn’t have been in my life for some time now. I have been looking for a new apt. for over two years now and each time I find places, they find a reason to turn me down. I love to sing and dance but now need to push myself….I’ve been trying to date and while I have a thick skin, tonight I broke up with someone bc I felt I wasn’t being respected -but why is it bothering me so? I know there was that “hopefulness’ that was just squashed…but every time he mentioned certain things, I guess they were triggers for me and I confronted him…while I’m proud of myself for standing up for myself…here I sit…alone again other than the chaos swirling around me….I don’t get much sleep either, so I know that doesn’t help. I never really know what to focus on right now as everything seems a mess…I am trying to lose weight, over 50lbs and am extremely self-conscious, so if some dude is treating me with anything other than respect, I will not tolerate it. I always look at the bright side too, as I see the quarantine as a way to bond with the children, pets and work on self-improvement projects. I wish all of you luck in these hard times, as I’m having them too and hope to try the methods suggested so that healing can begin. Thank you!

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    Lucia Parkes
    Posted at 22:26h, 03 June Reply

    Dear Karyl,
    I’ve read what you have posted on Cosmic Updates, which by the way, makes me feel a somewhat ashamed about myself complaining about how wretched I feel.
    Please reach on to people on Facebook.
    I for sure would welcome you as a friend and as a pen pal.
    I am going to include you in my prayers everyday from now on.

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    Lucia A Parkes
    Posted at 22:19h, 03 June Reply

    I have been recently feeling very emotional, tearful, off and on very sad, and at times too extremely alone.
    There are times when I feel as though my life is going to take a positive turn, then suddenly I feel calm and collected when all of a sudden as I find myself in different parts of my house I see on the clock the number 1111,1212, and once in a while while watching a movie the number 555 suddenly pops up as I glance at the DVR.
    I know the universe and my guardian angels are trying to connect with me, sending me massages. Once again I am reminded I am not alone. I feel then refreshed remembering what I’ve been told on many occasions, KEEP THE FAITH! God and your Angel’s are always with you.
    So, the lesson here is to never quiver no matter how terrible we seem to think our live is. Some of have everything money can’t buy. AND I DO!

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      Natalie Catherine
      Posted at 12:42h, 05 June Reply

      Hi Lucia, what a beautiful share – to have that connection with your Angels is so powerful. It’s heart warming to hear you being so positive despite your struggles. I hope some of the suggestions here have inspired you to try a new self-soothing practice to keep you in a good place.

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    Antoinette Starkiewicz
    Posted at 22:05h, 03 June Reply

    Poor Karyl… I feel for you. I’ve found the best way to spend this enforced solitude is by reading & writing, sometimes painting, but then, I’’m an 👩‍🎨 artist: drawing & reading have saved my life since I was a child.
    May I suggest you start writing & drawing about your feelings in a journal❓Doesn’t matter how it sounds & looks: for now, it’s for your eyes only😍. Later, looking through it may be of great interest & value!
    Best Wishes,

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      Natalie Catherine
      Posted at 12:45h, 05 June Reply

      Beautiful suggestion Antoinette, and so wonderful to hear how nourishing your creativity has been for you.

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    Karyl Pope (Ms)
    Posted at 21:24h, 03 June Reply

    I am an 85 year old woman in a Retirement Home in Burlington Ontario. I have been locked in my apartment alone fro 8 months because of COVID. No visitors allowed, Meals in our rooms, and No Entertainment

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      Natalie Catherine
      Posted at 12:43h, 05 June Reply

      Hi Karyl, thank you for leaving this comment. I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been so isolated. I hope that with restrictions easing you are soon able to have visitors. Thinking of you. x

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