Is there someone on your mind who feels far away?

Deco is here with a timeless love reading, to give you insights about this person and whether or not you will reunite.

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TRANSCRIPT:

Hello my friends at Cosmic Updates, it is Deco back again, but this time, instead of our regularly scheduled Weekly Reading, we’re going to do something a little bit different. You’ve had a lot of really predictive readings lately with all of us just because it’s the New Year, and so we’re looking at fresh beginnings. But, I want to dive a little bit into your past this week and be thinking about that person that has been on your mind that you’re wondering, “Did I mess up? Are they coming back? Is this someone who’s going to re-enter my life? Is this my soulmate? Is this, whatever?” I think everybody has that person that they think of and that they long for and that they wonder, they have those “what if” questions. And so, what I want to focus on is kind of, are they coming back? And, in the off chance that they’re not, seeing how life moves forward. Beyond that, we’ll pull a few cards and see what happens. See what you need to know, and I would love to see your comments. By the way, we do look at your comments. We try to interact as often as possible, but I want to be more interactive. So, next week I plan on putting a second reading in my video that’ll come out on Sunday answering one of your questions. So, feel free to leave your questions below, but also don’t be afraid to comment about how this reading resonates for you. I’m always curious to know how it resonates for people, and maybe it didn’t resonate for you, but maybe you’ll get the opportunity to see what you need to know in next week’s video. So, let’s pull some cards and see, is this person coming back? What do we need to know about the future with this person from your past?

Okay, so I feel your frustration. I feel this overwhelming feeling of, “This new beginning is not going to start. This isn’t a fresh start.” We’ve got the Ace and the Page of Cups both in reverse, and the Cups are all about our emotions. So, when we’re looking at our emotions, when it’s tied to water like this, we have the Ace and the Page, and these are looking at beginnings. So, the Ace of Cups in reverse, it’s kind of suggesting that there’s this feeling of, not hopelessness, but an inability to start fresh, maybe because you are longing for this person from your past. And, the Page of Cups in reverse can be an immature, codependent kind of vibe. It’s like what I want to be, what’s the word I want to look for? I want to tell you that you don’t need to find value in yourself through someone else. You don’t need someone else to give you value. You are valuable as you are. You are a prize for someone out there. And so, to tie your wellbeing and your sense of positive emotion to someone else and how they feel about you is just going to tear you down even more and keep you in this kind of funky situation. So right away, I’m not saying that this person is not going to come back into your life, but I think it’s really important that you think of how you’re handling yourself in that situation.

Because, we’ve got the Page of Pentacles upright, and again, the Pages are all about beginnings. They’re ideas, things getting started, and the Page of Pentacles is a seed being planted, it’s starting something new. So, this is kind of suggesting that you need to be really thoughtful about how you’re expressing yourself, how you’re developing your boundaries. You do not need to put all of your happiness on someone else’s shoulders, and that’s really what this is about, is saying you need to be comfortable in yourself and understand that just because someone’s upset at you or someone did something that made you sad or whatever, that doesn’t mean that it’s the end of the relationship. You can still have a conversation. You can still have a dialogue about what needs to change and what was uncomfortable and how you can grow together instead of growing apart through any sort of conflict, right? Because, codependence is just not healthy. You don’t need someone else to fill your cup for you. You can do that on your own. They should just be an added bonus. 

Now, I do want to pull some more cards to see what else we need to know about this circumstance. What else do we need to know about this person coming back in? Okay, so lots of good stuff here. We’ve got the Ten of Cups and we’ve got the Ten of Wands. I want to say this about the Ten of Wands. We’ve also got the Six of Pentacles.

The Ten of Wands, while it can feel heavy, it can feel like a lot, the thing about the Ten of Wands is it’s something that you’ve worked for, so it can feel overwhelming. It can feel like your cup is overflowing in a way that feels too much, right? It feels like too much responsibility or too much whatever. But really, the Ten of Wands is about abundance, an abundance of attention and abundance of love and abundance of so many different things. 

And, then we’ve got this Ten of Cups, and this is about a support system that just loves you, right? A support system that wants you to do well, that wants you to be in a relationship that builds you up, and maybe even to take a little bit of that stress off of your shoulders, whatever it happens to be. Maybe there’s something outside of a relationship that you need to address so that you are available. Maybe you’ve just got too much going on and you’re not able to invest in a relationship in the way that you need because you do have this. But, I think what I don’t want you to do is think I can’t invest in a relationship because I’ve got all this stuff. I think it’s just time to find your priorities and to prioritize the things that make the most sense so that you have time to invest in someone. Maybe that was part of the problem is that you just didn’t have the resources to be able to feed into that relationship in the way that it needed. And so, maybe it fizzled. But again, I think that there’s people behind you that already see this person as a positive person in your life, that want you to be happy and together with someone and in a relationship that’s balanced and happy and healthy. Not just happy, because happiness can come in a lot of different forms, but a healthy relationship might have conflict, but you handle that conflict in a way that is productive and helps you grow together again instead of growing apart.

Now, the Six of Pentacles, this is, I think, the big key here, it’s all about balance, right? That’s where that codependence comes back in. We can’t be codependent in this relationship because that’s just not going to be a balanced relationship. One person is give, give, give, and one person’s take, take, take. I need you, I need you, I need you. And, the other person says, “I don’t have enough to give.” So, the Six of Pentacles is like, this is where that balance needs to be found. You need to find someone who has good give and take that isn’t going to give you a transactional kind of love. Just because they did something for you doesn’t mean you owe them or vice versa. That’s just not a healthy way to be in a relationship. And so, what I think you need to be aware of is that you might have had some kind of toxic experiences with this person in the past, but that doesn’t mean that you guys haven’t grown and changed and that you won’t have the ability to come back together. I do think that there’s a lot of opportunity here. 

Now, we do have a little bit of numerology that I want to talk about. We’ve got the Tens, which together would be Judgment and Judgment, 20 in the Major Arcana, is all about having your logical brain on. And so, that’s where you are feeling something emotional and you take a step back and you say, let’s take the emotions out of it. What did I observe? How did that make me feel? How do I address this and talk to them in a way that isn’t overly emotional or codependent, but instead productive and says, “This is what you did, this is how it made me feel, and we need to work together to solve this problem. Can you work with me?” And, then you pay attention to how they react, too. And, if it’s a good balance, then I think that that’s something that could be really positive for you. But, again, it’s up to you to enter this in a healthy way, in a way that is going, again, to help you grow together instead of apart. That’s the thing, it’s like you grew apart for some reason, and now you need to think about how you grow together at this stage in your life after whatever you’ve gone through. Okay? I do think you have a lot to look forward to. I think you need to hold yourself to a higher standard, know your boundaries and communicate those boudaries effectively with this person that you care so much about because I think they want to be in your life. I think the people around you want you to be together. I think it’s just a matter of you being healthy together. 

I wish you guys a lot of luck. Don’t forget to comment wherever you are, whether you’re on YouTube or if you’re on the blog, I want to see your comments. I want to know how this resonates for you, but I also want to know your questions. What do you want to know? Because, remember, next week I’m going to choose one of your comments and answer it after the main reading. So, make sure you stick around. I’m excited to look through your comments this week and see what kind of readings we’re going to do next week. And, I wish you all the best in trying to come back together with this person. Again, I think there’s a lot to look forward to, but it’s up to you how it works out in the long run. Best of luck.